Seriously, cis lesbians. We do not want unwilling people to sleep with us. We just want you to stop talking about our genitals and saying we’re men.
There’s a very big difference between “I’m not interested.” and “I’m not interested, so your identity is invalid, and no one else can ever be interested either, and you’re gross, and I’ll constantly go out of my way to announce how gross you are, and you’re a rapist just for existing.”
TERFs are willfully ignorant to that.
Also, like, almost all my sexual experiences with cis women have involved being pressured to do sexual things that I didn’t want to do, and that’s true for a LOT of trans women I know.
This is something that, in my opinion, doesn’t get acknowledged or talked about enough considering how much time trans women have to spend defending ourselves against baseless accusations of predatory behavior.
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A “nuke the whales” poster except it reads “nuke my testosterone fueled libido” and the whales are pictures of crying men and the nuclear blast is raining Spiro
i know everyone’s tired of these by now especially me myself but…
i think everyone knows my story by now: sick with lupus, fibromyalgia, joint hypermoblity syndrome and other fun things; can’t get the social security administration to take me seriously since i’m a ‘’’young’’’ person and probably won’t have a court appeal hearing until july; been working part-time to at least sustain myself; had to go on leave in september for knee surgery and then have said leave extended because of flaring from the lupus; etc…
well i’m in even deeper shit now! i had to overdraft to pay my cell phone bill, and paying capital one is gonna sink me even further into the hole! thankfully my credit union doesn’t tack on overdraft fees every day…just $32 every transaction.
…and i STILL got more bills to pay! i have two more credit card payments for the month which are $27 and $34, and a leasing payment of $51.64. on top of all this i was set to resume my part-time work this week but Winter Storm Diego had other plans, and now i’m snowed in on a back road and will be until the state department of transportation actually comes out to the rural area i live in (my profile location is to throw any IRL people that might find this blog off; i live in virginia and my work commute is 30 miles each way). this means that even if i’m able to get back before the end of the week my paycheck won’t be shit! i’m going to try to bring this up to my family but honestly i don’t expect much to come out of it but a bunch of arguments, which would in turn probably make me flare again because of the stress. as always, proof of me being sick and having had surgery can and will be provided; i have a disc from the SSA they gave me before my surgery!
paypal / venmo / google wallet: colorthecover@gmail.com || cash.me: $Colorthecover
(no holiday wishlist; i just want this shit paid!!!!!!!!!)
i’m so incredibly grateful for all the help i’ve had so far and will receive; falling sick like this has totally messed my shit up. can’t directly help? that’s cool! just reblogging this helps! spread it outside of tungle since a lot of people are migrating anyway! and as always: if you’re not sick like this, your input is Invalid™!!!!! peace and blessings!
$10 raised so far! however, because of the capital one payment coming out:
$60 raised!
please keep reblogging this cause it’s lost traction and i had to go to the ER last night because my Sue of Cideal Ideation reached a fever pitch
my name is Jess and I am struggling. I am a 30 year old trans lesbian with C-PTSD, ADHD and OCD. I am a lifelong abuse survivor and I am trapped in a financially dependent relationship with my immediate family. Although they could afford to fully support me as their disabled daughter and only child, what they give me is absolutely nowhere near enough to live on and keeps me in forced contact with them as well as struggling profoundly to recover from three decades of psychological abuse, which will continue as long as I am forced to maintain contact. They are financing their upper middle class retirement plans and almost yearly world-travel by artificially keeping me in poverty.
I want nothing more than to gain financial independence, but right now I am unstable, unemployed, and in serious need of financial help to pay for my basic needs. The income I get from my family is hundreds of dollars less than my basic living expenses every month, and I am absolutely not ok enough to work more than a very small amount right now. I am trying to get off of an anti-depressant with a withdrawal commonly described as “worse than heroin” (venlafaxine/effexor) and I’ve still got about 40% of my max dose left to go. I have severe anxiety and depression from my C-PTSD, I spend most days battling viciously self-destructive intrusive thoughts, and I am physically debilitated from withdrawal symptoms to the point where I can’t currently hold employment with any reliability whatsoever. I’m trying to find something I could do part-time from home with my own hours, but haven’t had any luck so far.
I am fighting as hard as I can for my recovery and for the highest level of autonomy and self-sufficiency I can possibly achieve. I have wonderful friends, two impossibly perfect fur-babies and an incredible girlfriend that absolutely make my life worth living and fighting for.
But until I can get past this completely brutal withdrawal and hopefully get some help from EMDR, which I am about to start in a couple weeks, I need help pretty badly.
My girlfriend and I have two electric/heat bills due which total $567.55. She makes $9 an hour part time and is disabled herself. The income I get from my family is also now going down every two months until it’ll barely cover rent by this summer, because they believe that their money “enables” me and because I inconvenienced them too much by surviving an electrical fire which destroyed half of my earthly posessions earlier this year.
We’ve applied for LIHEAP (no answer yet) my girlfriend gets food stamps and medicaid, and we have no car or savings. If you can afford to donate anything to help right now, please help us. I know I’ve been asking for donations here for a very long time now, and I am so grateful for the huge outpouring of support I’ve received so many times before. I promise I am trying as hard as I can to recover so that I don’t have to do this anymore.
So I’m pretty bad at coming up with catchy and funny headlines to draw people’s attention so I’m going to get right to the point.
As of right now I am planning to have my grs this spring/early summer. But the problem I’m facing is living costs. I obviously won’t be able to work while I’m recovering but will still need to make rent. I’m trying to put away any amount of money I have towards this fund but I could really use any and all help I can get.
I know this isn’t a life or death situation and I know money is hard for a lot of people so I’m just asking those who can spare anything, take care of yourselves first! At the very least though reblogging this would mean A LOT to me.
My Paypal is: paypal.me/MadDahlia
I’m open to other ideas too so if anyone has any send me a DM!
Thank you for taking a bit of time to read this, it means more than you know.
